Parental Involvement

My number one pet peeve is lack of parental involvement in their children's lives.  Just turn to facebook and twitter and read the posts.  In the last few weeks, I have seen where a non-custodial had the child's birthday gifts repoed because he didn't pay Rent-a-Center. Then there is the non-custodial parent who rarely picks up the child for scheduled visitations which are suppose to take place every other weekend and when that said parent does pick up that child it turns out to be only for a few hours.  Another non-custodial parental telling people that the custodial parent is unfit.  If the custodial parent is unfit then do something about it.  Children aren't here for our entertainment.  I always think back to Hook (one of my favorite childhood movies).  The mom tells the dad that you only have a few precious years where your child actually wants to play with you then you will be begging for some of their time.  Our children grow up fast!  I know 18 years seems like forever but ask a grandma how quickly her own children grew up.  It is all about perspective.  You want a relationship with your child later in life you build that relationship now, no matter where that child lives.  You don't wait until they are old enough to do things that you think are cool by then they won't want a relationship with you.  It is not about pleasing you.  Find out what your child is into and get into it with them for their sake.  Sure introduce the child to things you liked when you were their age but back off if they aren't interested.  Find something you can do with them that you BOTH will enjoy.  Keep in mind the child's age.  Most of all spend time with them doing something besides watching TV.  Get involved with your child.  Ask about what they are doing in school or who their friends are or what activities they like.  Just get to know your child and build those bonds.  You will never regret it.  And your child will grow up better because of it.  Okay I am off my soap box.